Is There Renewed Life After A Crisis
by Susan Thom(43)http://onsuchthings.com
I thank God for strong, independent parents who taught me to live my life as they did. They were honest, responsible, funny, serious, spiritual, and worked hard to provide their kids with a good home life. They didn't do things for us that they thought we could do for ourselves. Their theory was that if they indulged us on matters we could achieve, we'd never be able to take care of ourselves.
We had to do our own homework, get good grades, and be respectful in our manner. We watched my father come home from a day working over a hot grill, and watched my mother go to work as a nurse every night at 11. Our home was clean, clothes washed, and dinner on the table every night. If we didn't go to school, our options were the couch or our bed. My father paid the bills, and my mother helped bring in more money to do so.
Lying and cheating were never stood for or accepted. There were rules, and they had to be adhered to. My mother was a strong, self sufficient woman, and my father was a rock of strength and perseverance. The two combined made for a home filled with comfort and safety. This home is where I learned to be self sufficient, smart, strong, and dependable. All before I ever left home.
When I did leave the nest, I was working for the post office, making good money at 21, and able to afford my own apartment, car, insurance, and all the rest of the ways money can dissipate. I was shy in reality, but the world made me stronger than my personality wanted to be. Fear can strengthen one's spine and intensify one's power. It can also leave one lonely and afraid of life.We owe it to ourselves to keep moving forward in a positive way.
Our physical strength must be kept up, as well as our emotional and spiritual well-being. When a crisis comes our way, we must be ready for it. Putting things off is never the right way to deal with our situation. Everything must be in order, or all the loose ends of our lives can make us crazy. Unpaid bills, missing doctor's appointments, essentials being curtailed, all wind up causing us stress and grief.
Depression can ensue, and render us unable to perform the tasks at hand. As we curl up in the fetal position, the world keeps moving, the bills keep piling up, and we don't take time to enjoy the little things in life. There's a big world out there, and it holds excitement and happiness for those who care to join in. No one else can feel that excitement for us. If we are feeling like life is passing us by, there's always nature to pick us up. A walk outside can do wonders.
If we've been through a crisis, there are ways to bring ourselves out of the darkness. We can talk with close friends and family, or a professional if need be, and we can bring ourselves back to a comfortable way of life. Once the pressing issues have passed, we can get back to doing what makes us happy. Most crisis' cause stress and depression, but these feelings can be lifted if we take care of what needs to be done, so we can relax and enjoy our lives.
We may have gone through a breakup that caused us pain and aggravation. However, once we are back on the high ground, we can realize how much better off we are. It can become a source of relief, and not defeat. A new life can begin. New plans, new friendships, new hobbies, new happiness. We can learn to appreciate and accept our own selves, and enjoy all that God has provided for us. The birds, chipmunks, squirrels, and flowers can shed new meaning to our peace within.
There most certainly can be life after a crisis. It's up to us to pick ourselves up, and go forward with a renewed sense of power and excitement. The strength we never knew we had, but showed itself through our turmoil, can now be used in a positive way. We can throw ourselves back into the process of life, and enjoy our contentment and peace. If we've accomplished what we set out to do, and we can now relax and concentrate on our own lives and those we love.
Life will be filled with one crisis or another. The important thing is to be aware of how we are going to handle ourselves under duress, and then, how we are going to get ourselves back to our own demeanor and personality. It isn't easy, but it is possible, because I have done it. There is Hell on Earth, but once we get passed it, we can once again, enjoy all that God has blessed us with. It's really all up to us.
Article submitted Wednesday, June 03, 2009 & read 358 times.
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» left by Kathy Somers Walsh (278 days 17 hours ago.)
I enjoyed reading your article Susan, alot of wisdom in your words. I am going through a marriage separation as we speak and I am trying to focus, but my brain feels tired and bruised right now, along with my heart, but I had to put a stop to the marriage as it was very toxic so I put my foot down and said NO MORE for our kids sake, I will not have them grow up in a really toxic home with fighting, disrespect, anger etc etc. But it still hurts that my marriage was a disappointment rather than a positive, it's hard being a single mom too, but I rather be a single mom and not being in rotten marriage and trying to raise them by myself anyway. At least I don't have the stress of looking after him as well anymore.I hope I made the right decision, as this is what I have bouncing back and forth in my thoughts daily, I do think of the good times like the birth of our boys and him being there, but I have to think of all the bad, its confusing so I go to counselling and they said I am doing great, but I doesn't feel so great. I hope that I can learn from your words and put them into action. I am going to book mark your article and re read it when necessary....thank you for writing it.God tells me that everything will be fine and I guess that's all I needRespond to this comment
» left by sue thom from nj (269 days 10 hours ago.)
hi kathy,i'm sorry-i didn't receive a notification of your comment.please, i have 770 plus articles i have written in the past 2 years, and most of them surround all the feelings one goes through during a divorce. i have 3 kids, but they were 16, 19, and 21, but it matters not-they still pick sides back and forth, which causes hurt feelings. i can tell you that i am in Heaven, just as I was in Hell in a bad marriage. it was worth all the heartache to get out after 23 years, and start over with my partner, whom i've known for 40 years.i have been told that wisdom comes from experience.i believe it.if you need to talk, or are feeling down, email me through searchwarp, and i'll email you back.i hope my words help you when you need it.take care of yourself-to thine own self be true-it doesn't mean to be selfish, only that if you don't take care of yourself, you won't be able to take care of anyone else, and in this case, it would be your kids.my very best,sueRespond to this comment
» left by hasman from Malaysia (258 days 7 hours ago.)
Great writing Susan. Thank u for sharing it. I believe you are right. Just to share with u about my experience. The funny thing about when you are down is that u tend to make more mistakes. You just cant think properly. It takes sometime for you to recover and bounce back. Unless you have someone to turn to. Someone who will listen and encourage you to bounce back. Its tough but its a matter of time. We just have to fight for our life till we find the way out. We will be battered and bruised but we will recover sooner or later. Life goes on. Thank you.Respond to this comment
» left by Susan Thom(43) (256 days 17 hours ago.)
hi hasman,
you are absolutely right.
the mind and body goes through it's own trauma, and really do need time to mend.
if you're lucky, another wave of heartache and hurt won't hit right away!
i am happy to have a message from malaysia, the internet is a wondeful thing.
i appreciate you reading and commenting,
my best regards,
sue
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